You Guys Confuse Me
I have a couple of questions for the guys... Do you like it when girls ask you out? I think that's just crazy, but I was curious what you think. The second question, what is the most important thing for a girl to be/have? People keep asking me if I have a boyfriend, which I don't, and they keep telling me to ask someone out. I won't mention any names, but its getting kind of irritating.
posted by Emily at 8:53 AM
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I as a girl would prefer if the guy do the asking out. I'm old fashioned in that way. But I do think girls can make it easier for the guys, take some of the pressure off. I give guys credit. I would never have the guts to ask a boy out.
In general don't have any problem with a girl asking me out. That doesn't mean I'd say yes, since the only girls who have actually asked me out were ones I didn't like at all, but I really didn't mind them asking and it is somewhat flattering.
If I was going to ask a girl out I’d want to ask someone who I shared many interests with. I wouldn’t be looking for a girl who acted just like me nor had the exact same interests as me since I’ve met a few and they scared me. I’d ask someone out who enjoys many of the same things as me, who I could talk to about anything, and who can tolerate my friends.
Also, we’ve been bugging a random guy to ask you out for a while now but I won’t mention names since everyone knows who it is.
In general don't have any problem with a girl asking me out. That doesn't mean I'd say yes, since the only girls who have actually asked me out were ones I didn't like at all, but I really didn't mind them asking and it is somewhat flattering.
If I was going to ask a girl out I’d want to ask someone who I shared many interests with. I wouldn’t be looking for a girl who acted just like me nor had the exact same interests as me since I’ve met a few and they scared me. I’d ask someone out who enjoys many of the same things as me, who I could talk to about anything, and who can tolerate my friends.
Also, we’ve been bugging a random guy to ask you out for a while now but I won’t mention names since everyone knows who it is.
Spam AND doubleposting in the SAME post? You must have done something right.
I'm a Guardian therefore I'm much more receptive to the traditional methods that work. So I'm more inclined to me being the one to asking her out.
But that is all theorycraft as now is not the time for me to go there. The time is approaching but I'm not there yet.
Besides... girls are icky. :)
Oh yeah?! Well... boys are icky too! So there!
Stupid double posting... *grumble grumble* Stupid spam too!
Great, so I'm not the only "old-fashioned" one out there...
*sigh*
To TBQelite: I thought you were a member of the "He-Man, girls are okay, Club?"
To Emily: Every situation is a unique and has to be acted on in a manner best suited for it.
Should a girl ask a guy out? They can, but generally a girl wants a guy to ask her, not only because its traditional, but it's one of the various ways that a guy shows a girl that he is interested in her. The psychology behind it is somewhat similar to hunter/prey. Think what you will about it, but the similarities are there.
Example: Guy likes girl. Guy pursues girl. Guy may/may not get girl depending on how hard he trys/techniques he employs.
Switch out girl for food and it's the same. Of course there are whole level of dymanics that take place above this formula, but it's the root of it.
If a guy is rejected by girl (as far as I've been told as I have never experienced this) it stings. A lot maybe depending on how much effort the guy put into it.
If a GIRL is rejected by a GUY...
Essentially its like a guy is turning his nose up a food that wants to be caught.
Again, the dymanics of the situation are vastly more complex and advanced, but the formula fits.
So...girls (generally) are more hesitant to ask guys out than vice-versa.
Of course there's tradition and personality in there too, but that's on a individual basis. I know guys who are rather skittish about asking girls out (like ******** and *******), and I know girls that won't really hesitant to ask a guy they like out, but this are generally exceptions to the normal rules. Again, personality, situation in life and other things fact in greatly.
-Tarrick Twilight, amateur psychologist
@ The Shadow Walker:
I thought you'd keep our talks confidential! Oops...
Oh yeah... I am in the "He man girls are ok but cross dressers are not club". Shikashi! That doesn't stop girls from being icky!
Things can be ok and icky too, just not usually at the same time. All of Tarrick's food-talk is making me hungry; maybe a supersized value meal is in order. Traditional guy asking girl out scenario is still acceptable. Hmm...maybe I should do that on my way to get my value meal.
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